I've always been an even-tempered and happy person. If I feel upset, usually a good night of rest fixes it and I feel great in the morning.
This pregnancy has changed that. I think I have the baby blues or postpartum depression or whatever you want to call it. I didn't notice it myself, I rarely notice this kind of thing. I have to have things like this pointed out to me by my husband. Now that I think about it, it is so obvious!
I have been focusing so much on all of the things that I need to do or that I am not able to do that I have not taken time for myself. Even when I have gotten out without kids, I have gone to get things for them.
I love to be outside and play with plants, but I have kept myself cooped up in the house and watched my houseplants die.
I love to crochet. Instead of making something creative or at least something that I want to make, I have been feeling like I have to work on a project that I am being paid for.
I love to read and although I've been reading the scriptures, I haven't been reading any books for fun. I miss that. I've had trouble finding one that sounds interesting.
I think I've been so focused on my physical healing (which has been fast and easy) that I didn't think about the emotional. I started to feel better after the baby was born (since I had some weird emotional/hormonal problems then), so I thought I was done with all of that. I guess not. It is so frustrating because it is SO unlike me. I haven't had depression problems before, so I don't know what to do with myself. My husband suggested I treat today like a sick day and just take care of me. It sounds like a great idea, but I just keep thinking of all of the things that need to be done...
I'm going to start by taking a shower!!
Monday, August 04, 2008
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Is he "filling in" for you? Showers are great places to start. Pamper yourself a bit and get a pedicure - they feel great and make your feet so pretty.
I am feeling much the same way. However, I don't know if is the baby blues as much as it might be us just trying to stay on top of everything (more like that is part of our personality)as we adjust to having a third child. Not sure, though.
But you are definitely right, we absolutely need to take some time for ourselves and do some things we enjoy so we can be more even keeled and more emotionally stable.
I have noticed, though, that each day is getting just a tad better.
Good luck!
it takes a while...it wasn't until a while after Joshua was born that I started doing more things to improve myself and to do activities that I did before I got married. Its hard to figure out how to fit these things into your life again when you have little ones.
I had some pretty serious issues after having my second. I've found that the most important thing is to identifiy. Identify what sets you off and identitfy what makes you happy. For me? Sugar sets me off, and making time to do things like paint my nails, write...things that are purely for me, really helps.
I think you ought to listen to your husband - you really need time for yourself. I like you a whole lot! And I should come and visit you sometime this week and give you a reason to take some time off!
That is so hard when you're taking care of a new little baby. Taking a shower definitely helps, though. :) I hope your "sick day" gets you back on track and you can kick the ickies.
starting with a shower is a great thing!! i had PPD after each of my babies....it's hard to make time for you when there's so much other stuff. but for me, just stepping out of the house, going to the library, it really helped. i used to rock the baby as/after i nursed and read! :)
good luck! :)
Your husband sounds like a smart guy. I agree...you should take some time for yourself :)
A shower sounds great. It's always an adjustment to a new person in the family. Hang in there.
First of all let me say congratulations!!! She is a beautiful extraordinary miracle. Also, look at the great support system you have...so many people that love you.
Secondly, I am one to take PPD very seriously. Hopefully this is just a little bit of the Baby Blues, but if it continues or is a bite too big to chew, let me know. I want to help because I've had personal experience with it and have found some awesome solutions.
I love you and miss you.
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